November 2016 – We Only Get One Chance

DEVASTATED

Election day has come and gone and I am left feeling devastated.

Before we go much further, I want to make it very clear that I am not devastated because of who won and who lost, I am devastated because of the friction I have seen increase among our communities.

Let’s be honest and straight forward here, that campaign was the nastiest I ever remember. I blogged about Tuesday and what it felt like even going to the polls. But something else was happening. I made the assumption that Tuesday would be the end of the friction or at least it would begin to subside.

I had NO IDEA that it would actually ramp up!!! Really people?!?!?

I went to sleep around 9:30 on Tuesday night (you are welcome Cafe of LIFE chiropractic patients, I wasn’t going to be tired for you in the morning over staying up to watch the results). I figured what is done is done and I slept well knowing I did my part. I feel a similar way about sporting events, my team will either win or not win and it really doesn’t depend on whether I am watching.

I woke up in the morning and when I came around I realized what day it was, the day after the election and certainly by 6:30am the results would be in (although really got questionable there for a while).

I checked my phone, something I try not to do right out of bed, but this day was obviously a little more special than other days.

Trump won.

“How do I feel about Trump winning?” was my first thought. “What if Hillary would have won?” was my second thought.

You know that emoji with the face that looks like “concern” and is mostly teeth? And the other emoji with a straight face and big bulging eyes? That pretty much sums up my feelings.

I went about my morning and heading in to serve my people at the Cafe at 7:30 like I always do on Wednesday.

I sent a text message to a good friend of mine to chat about the results with someone who thinks similar to me and I moved along with my day.

That was one of the heaviest feeling days in a long time and I know I am not alone when I say that.

Social media completely took over and opinions were flying left and right (no pun intended)…and haven’t stopped since. I have seen some things that I am absolutely shocked from people I would have never suspected. I am not at all saying that is a bad thing because we are all entitled to our opinions. Being that aggressive has gone so far overboard and is so incredibly unproductive it is astonishing to me.

Someone said today “I’m confused, aren’t protests used to voice displeasure for something that can be changed? And if you protest something that can’t be changed aren’t you just bitching in large numbers?” Hmmmm…very interesting point!!!

And FOR WHAT?!?! This isn’t something that can be changed at this point.

So let’s get back to work, and when I use the word “work” in this way, I mean let’s get back to our individual work of being good humans, being kind and making our corner of the world a better place.

There is a time of grieving for some people after election day this year. Ultimately, what is done is done and it is time to move forward. Fighting fear with more fear gets us even more fear. Trying to fight anger with more anger gets us even more anger. We need to switch gears.

Extend love and compassion to your neighbors, friends, people in the grocery store, restaurants, and out on the roads. This is the only way to make the change we really want to see. Step up and take a stand by extending gratitude for the contrasting opinions. We are not promised a tomorrow, let’s move on with our lives NOW!

I have felt devastated for what has happened in and among our communities since the election. It is time to get back to work.

TOMORROW

Tomorrow will come no matter what.

In the meantime, I want to share what I felt walking into the precinct this morning.

It was a feeling of power, anxiety and suspicion all wrapped into one.

Presidential election years feel so different than the other election years. And since they roll around once every 4 years, I have such a stronger appreciation for them than I did just 4 years ago, along with a stronger appreciation for all of life in general.

This morning as I got out of my car, I stood up a little straighter, was a little more mindful and walked a little prouder…because I am an American and I have the right to vote. THAT IS A BIG DEAL!!!!

As I approached the building, a little anxious wave came over me because, although things take a while to actually change, the trajectory of our country is on the line. When anxiousness comes up for me, I realize I am future-projecting stress and I know I need to just bring myself back to the moment and the day, mostly because nobody is actually guaranteed a tomorrow anyway.

When I am standing in line next to the other voters in my precinct (my neighbors essentially), I am a little suspicious about my vote even counting. Of course it counts, however if the very next person votes exactly opposite of me, then it sort of negates the whole thing, doesn’t it? Also I have heard so much about voter intimidation this time around, a concept I haven’t really been aware of before. I am curious if any one of the humans in that building today would do something like that?

So tomorrow is coming no matter what as we all know. Today is a day of division and tomorrow we all move forward together. Every single one of us. Those neighbors with signs in their yards that are directly in opposition to your beliefs, they will still be living next door to you. Those businesses in town that have strong opinions one way or another, will still be the same businesses serving this community tomorrow. The cars with big and small bumper stickers that are directly opposed to your choices today will still be sharing the same roads.

I was in a local business this morning at 8am and there were some, what appeared to be, regulars sitting there chatting it up. One of the presidential candidate’s name was brought up and one guy threatened to throw his scone at the other guy. It was silly and juvenile and precious, and all at the same time being his truth.

We all have our truth. We all have things that we stand for and some beliefs that guide our lives and decisions on a daily basis. We also live and work among those that directly oppose those beliefs. I think that is one of the greatest things about our country is that we can live and work among those that believe different things…and that is allowed.

Tonight will be exciting. Tomorrow we go back to our lives and take the next right step for ourselves to move us along in our own progress. Tomorrow we will encounter those neighbors that have/had those signs up in their yards. Ultimately tomorrow we all wake up together and are here with each other, and it was designed that way for a reason.

Spread some love. Make a new connection. Reach out and help someone. None of us have the right answers, we all have our own answers and the contrast and difference between our answers is what makes this world go round.

Tomorrow we wake up together no matter what today brings. Remember that.

GRATITUDE PROJECT

It is the month of THANKSGIVING!!! The best holiday of them all in my opinion. We have a GRATITUDE PROJECT going on in our office for the final months of the year.

“What we think about and thank about, we bring about.”

The world proves to us over and over again that what WE FOCUS ON, EXPANDS!!! So let us get back to focusing on GRATITUDE and what we are grateful for.

Our lives are blessed in so many ways. Seriously so, so, so many ways.

I want to challenge you to sit for 5 minutes, set a timer even, and think about all the different things you are grateful for. Make a list in your mind. Can’t fill 5 minutes of time? Look harder, you are not paying close enough attention.

I am so very grateful for my office Cafe of LIFE Chiropractic and the ability to serve this community! I could not imagine my life any other way than spending my days doing what I love.

I also LOVE LOVE LOVE to fill this space with GRATITUDE!!!!!!!!

GRATITUDE PROJECT:

Each day you walk into the Cafe of LIFE, you will make sure to stop by our GRATITUDE STATION. There are leaf cut-outs ready for you. Write one thing you are grateful and tape it to our tree on our window. It becomes the biggest and most beautiful gratitude tree in just a few short weeks, and we just keep going. It is simple and super fun and such an awesome way to build GRATITUDE ENERGY!!!

And if you are not a patient here at the Cafe of LIFE, feel free to swing by and just fill out a leaf and join our mission. The more GRATITUDE, the BETTER!!!!

In saying all of that, I want to take a moment to extend my GRATITUDE to you, my readers, family, friends and patients, for being part of my life. My life and heart are filled up because of YOU!!! Thank you.